5  Love Languages  Test & Explanations

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The Five Love Languages - Quiz

Mark on a paper the letter (A-E) you prefer most of the two options - (the one that fits the best right now)

After you’ve made your selections, go back and count the number of times you chose each letter.

1. I like to receive notes of affirmation.
I like to be hugged.		 A
E
2. I like to spend one-to-one time with a person who is special to me.
I feel loved when someone gives practical help to me.		 B
D
3 I like it when people give me gifts.
I like leisurely visits with friends and loved ones		 C
B
4 I feel loved when people do things to help me.
I feel loved when people touch me.		 D
E
5 I feel loved when someone I love or admire puts his or her arm around me.
I feel loved when I receive a gift from someone I love or admire.		 E
C
6 I like to go places with friends and loved ones.
I like to high-five or hold hands with people who are special to me.		 B
E
7 Visible symbols of love (gifts) are very important to me.
I feel loved when people affirm me.		 C
E
8 I like to sit close to people whom I enjoy being around.
I like for people to tell me I am attractive/handsome.		 E
A
9 I like to spend time with friends and loved ones.
I like to receive little gifts from friends and loved ones.		 B
C
10. Words of acceptance are important to me.
I know someone loves me when he or she helps me.		 A
D
11. I like being together and doing things with friends and loved ones.
I like it when kind words are spoken to me.		 B
A
12. What someone does affects me more than what he or she says.
Hugs make me feel connected and valued.		 D
E
13. I value praise and try to avoid criticism.
Several small gifts mean more to me than one large gift.		 A
C
14. I feel close to someone when we are talking or doing something together.
I feel closer to friends and loved ones when they touch me often.		 B
E
15. I like for people to compliment my achievements.
I know people love me when they do things for me that they don’t enjoy doing.		 A
D
16. I like to be touched as friends and loved ones walk by.
I like it when people listen to me and show genuine interest in what I am saying.		 E
B
17. I feel loved when friends and loved ones help me with jobs or projects.
I really enjoy receiving gifts from friends and loved ones.		 D
C
18. I like for people to compliment my appearance.
I feel loved when people take time to understand my feelings.		 A
B
19. I feel secure when a special person is touching me.
Acts of service make me feel loved.		 E
D
20. I appreciate the many things that special people do for me.
I like receiving gifts that special people make for me.		 D
C
21. I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone gives me undivided attention.
I really enjoy the feeling I get when someone does some act of service for me.		 B
D
22. I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with a gift.
I feel loved when a person celebrates my birthday with meaningful words.		 C
A
23. I know a person is thinking of me when he or she gives me a gift.
I fell loved when a person helps with my chores.		 C
D
24. I appreciate it when someone listens patiently and doesn’t interrupt me.
I appreciate it when someone remembers special days with a gift.		 B
C
25. I like knowing loved ones are concerned enough to help with my daily tasks.
I enjoy extended trips with someone who is special to me		 D
B
26. I enjoy kissing or being kissed by people with whom I am close.
Receiving a gift given for no special reason excites me.		 E
C
27. I like to be told that I am appreciated.
I like for a person to look at me when we are talking.		 A
B
28. Gifts from a friend or loved one are always special to me.
I feel good when a friend or loved one touches me.		 C
E
29. I feel loved when a person enthusiastically does some task I have requested.
I feel loved when I am told how much I am appreciated.		 D
A
30. I need to be touched every day.
I need words of affirmation daily.		 E
A

  Add Up Totals...     A:                                B:                                 C:                               D:                                E:                

Below ...  The 5 Love Languages Explained

 

 

 "Love is the most important word in the English language-and the most confusing. Psychologists have concluded that the need to feel loved is a primary human emotional need. For love, we will climb mountains, cross-seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncross able, deserts unbearable, and hardships a plight in life." Quote from…The Five Love Languages How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.

The "Five Love Languages" by dr. Gary Chapman is an amazing book. As a marital counselor, I recommend this book and the quiz to all my clients. I have seen & experienced the changes it can make in a couples life and these changes appear in a very short time. Even if you have the perfect relationship this book is still a must, and if not then it is even more of a must.

 Here is a very brief overview of the Five Love Languages...

 Language # 1 - Words of Affirmation:

Verbal compliments, words of appreciation, encouraging word, kind words and humble words are all ways to show love using verbal communication. One of the deepest needs in many people is the need to feel appreciated Words of affirmations will meet this need for many people. The book gives several examples on how others have used words of Affirmation to change there failing relationships, this book talks about the fact that a lot of people have more potential than they will ever know and that in some case what holds them back is the lack of encouragement.

The book talks about how individuals mess up every new day with yesterday. By insisting on bring the failures of yesterday into today and in doing so, pollute a potentially wonderful day.

 Language # 2 - Quality Time:

Quality time means togetherness…not sitting in front of the T.V. together but sitting together, giving each other your total undivided attention. This means looking at each other, talking to each other, not at each other. The author of this book shows through example how couples can spend all kinds of time with each other and it not really be quality time and vise-versa. Couples can spend small amounts of time together and it can be quality time. Whatever the activity we choose, we need to give each other our full-undivided attention. "The activity is a vehicle that creates the sense of togetherness." 

 Language # 3 - Receiving Gifts:

The giving of a gift is an outward sign that the person was thinking of you in some way. It is something that you can hold and touch that show some one cared enough to think of you. To give a gift the person giving the gift has to think about the person that they are giving the gift to. The gift is a symbol of that thought and it doesn't matter the cost, it is the fact that they did think of you. Not just the thought of mind but the fact that they took time to secure the gift for you that also matters.

Gifts are a visible sign that someone cares, that someone loves you….be it mother, father, sister, brother, daughter, son, friend or lover. You know that they care. Wedding rings are a gift and a symbol of love. For some this is their love language. They believe that by giving a gift it shows I care and vise-versa that if you give me a gift then that too shows that you care. But sometimes during hard times the best gift of all is the gift of your time.

 Language # - 4 Acts of Service:

Acts such as cooking meals, setting the table, washing floors, clothes, dishes, mowing the lawn, fixing the plumbing ……etc are all acts of service. The person performing these acts of service has to think about them plan the time to do them, and put the effort into doing them. They do this to show that they care about you. Now the author is talking about acts of service that someone does for you without you asking them to. The wife who keeps the house clean all the time and has dinner ready for her partner after a long day at work, the husband that mows the lawn every weekend, to keep the yard looking nice for his family to be proud of.

 Language # 5 - Physical Touch:

We have always known that we have 5 senses, sight, hearing, taste, smell and touch. Of these 5 senses touch is very different from the rest …. Sight is through our eyes, hearing is through our ears, taste is through our tongue, but touch is not limited to our fingers. We have tiny tactile receptors all over our bodies. When these receptors are touched or pressed, nerves carry impulses to the brain and the brain interprets these impulses. It could be pain or pleasure, hot or cold, hard or soft, loving or not.

Touch can make or break a relationship, show love or hate and for those who's love language is touch…it can speak 10 times louder than any words you may use.

 		  

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